Stop Tap Dancing in the Wrong Ballroom

Article Title: Stop Tap Dancing in the Wrongyou come from?"
Ballroom"Oh...now I get it. This is one of your feet off the
Author Name: Doug C. Grantground head in the sky discussions. Sorry...I'm not
Contact Email Address: doug Word Count: 678feeling very high-minded today."
Category: Motivational/Humor"Well, pardon me! I didn't mean to overload your
© Doug C. Grant, 2002thinking circuits. But what we are discussing here
~~~~~~~~~~~is basic hard-core reality so listen carefully. YOU
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thisarticle in its entirety including the resource box.TO WHICH YOU HAVE DEDICATED YOUR LIFE."
When possible, pleasenotify me of publication by"Oh...wow. That's really deep. Excuse me while I
sending either a website link or a copyof yourgo stick my head in a book of wise sayings or
ezine upon publication via email to STOP TAPsomething."
DANCING IN THE WRONG BALLROOM"Stick your head wherever you like. Sand if you
(another chapter from the i-mail saga)by Doug C.prefer. But when you re-enter the reality zone,
Granttruth will still be truth."
"Been setting a lot of goals for us, have you?""Okay. I'm in an accommodating mood so let's
I had just finished a session of goal setting andsay there is a difference between a goal and a
was feeling rather good about where I was goingpurpose. I know about goals. How do I determine
and what I intended to accomplish. Then camea purpose?"
the i-mail from Other-Self. An i-mail is like an"To begin with, it's not ‛A' purpose. It's
e-mail except it arrives internally, can't be ignored‛THE' purpose. And you begin by asking
and doesn't have a delete button.yourself what are your best talents and abilities?
I looked at my goal sheet again and smiled. "Yes...IIn other words, what do you do extremely well?
think even you will have to agree that theseWhat do you enjoy doing?"
represent a worthwhile plan for my future.""And what do I do with ‛THE' answer?"
"I would if I could see some overall purpose"Decide the best way for you to serve God,
behind them."others and yourself by using these talents."
"Purpose! What do you mean, PURPOSE? They're"Ahhhh. I knew there was a catch to all this.
covered with purpose."You're suggesting sainthood."
"Such as?""Not at all. I doubt if you'd even qualify for
"Success! Financial prosperity! Fulfillment! Get withconsideration. I'm merely pointing out that you
the program. It's the stuff of life."were put here on earth for a purpose. Your
"I couldn't agree less."talents and abilities will point you in that direction if
This really unplugged my wires. Sometimesyou stop long enough to really look at them.
Other-Self can be so completely no-where that IDespite appearances, you are not a cosmic
question if he's part of me. "All right...let's take thisaccident. You do have a mission. And until you
slow and easy. Are you telling me that you don'tdiscover and align yourself with that purpose you
think success, money, fulfillment and all that goodcan set all the goals you want but you'll still be tap
stuff amounts to anything?"dancing in the wrong ballroom."
"I don't recall having said that at all. I was simply"Give me a for instance."
observing that the ‛good stuff', as you call"You've got writing skills. You enjoy writing. So
it, doesn't amount to a whistle in the wind withoutmaybe your real purpose in life is to use your
a purpose behind it."writing to help others walk taller. Someone else
"I think I left you behind somewhere. Success ISmight be a gifted sales person. Their mission could
a purpose. Money IS a purpose."be to help people live better or more successfully
"Wrong as usual. They may be goals but they arethrough valuable services or products. Get the
not a purpose."idea?"
"Sounds to me like we're having an argument"Maybe. I will admit the idea is worth thinking
over words."about. But just out of curiosity, what is your
"Not at all. Let me ask you a few questions. Whydedicated purpose in life?"
did you choose the goals that you did? What else"Saving you from your Dumb-Self. It's a full-time
should or could you be doing with your life?commitment.
Where are you going? For that matter, where did